Now that I saw posts saying 'Chris Evans is officially a dad', without even mentioning the human who actually created that life in her body, I'm thinking about how extremely different language around reproduction would be if males had to be the pregnant ones instead.
Women wouldn't be considered 'mothers', there'd be a whole different word that cuts her off. Something distant, lower level. A man is never actually a father, for his body did absolutely nothing. It wasn't part of the creation of life at all. No change done to his body, no risk, nothing. Just wait and see the baby. His biology doesn't know that baby shares his genes, there's no connection between them.
That's why men want a family their entire lives, and why they share genes with dozens of babies while most women don't really create more than two or three. Men don't lose absolutely anything with it, and they won't after the baby is born, as they don't take care of any life that isn't their own. So to them, it's just a medal of honor. 'I have 14 children' and you barely know their names, let alone their birthdays.
I also think that explains their insane ego, and how they can be so profoundly self-centered. Because their bodies are entirely their own, always, no matter what. In biology terms and in societal terms (as they made it this way), a man is his own, and to him, a woman belongs to whatever male she had children with. His bodily autonomy is never questioned and can't be threatened. That his body belongs to him is obvious.
But this also means his empathy is conditioned to himself, which is why men only ever actually have empathy for other men. He reflects himself on every man, but not on women, as he sees us as just a vessel that pops out more males — more of himself.
On this topic, I've never liked the term 'daddy issues' for women, it's a way of overestimating the role of a male in a little girl's life just for being a male. It's the trauma of neglect or verbal/physical abuse, which always ALWAYS has a layer of misogyny when it comes from a man. So I guess it's just not well defined. There can be ''daddy issues'', because being the object of misogyny from a man who's in your life everyday is absolutely devastating and traumatizing. Especially if it's the man you're supposed to be able to trust over any other. And the current name is just sickening and borderline fetishistic.
No wonder men love women with such traumas so much, as other men already did the job of breaking her spirit early in life, and he can take advantage of her until he gets bored and can move on to another one.
