Men work under a completely different emotional system than normal people. They don't care if their words hurt you, they don't care about the meaning their actions carry, they don't pretend to avoid making someone feel bad. Instead, they have external motivations. Men do whatever they want whenever they want to whomever they want, and don't care about the consequences and the possible violence behind it — only whether they'll be found out or not, and who finds out. And they care about simply because they might face problems for their own actions.